《We were trapped in it》
失落什么。难过什么。气愤什么。凭什么。
爱是孤单的心事。
“你知道吗，你不是世界上最好看的人，我也不是世界上最帅的人，但，我会是世界上最喜欢你的人。”
“是吗？那，那你要和我玩一辈子？”
“嗯，当然了，我们以后会一起去很多地方。”
“可我很懒，是懒得出门的那种人。”
“那我就买一个大房子，我们就永远在里面，不出去。”
“神经病啊，不出去我们吃什么啊。”
“你想吃什么我出门去给你买就好了。”
“我一个人在家害怕。”
“那我们养一条狗，我不在的时候就它陪你。”
“不要狗，要你。”
“那行，那就吃我吧。”
一年后，下午四点一刻，灰沉的天光透进窗台，没有声音。
我趴在桌子上，电脑里的文献还没有看完，杯子里的水只喝了一半，头发乱糟糟的，被子也没人叠。
耳机里放着蓝又时的《孤单心事》，闭上眼，只觉得又忙碌又无聊。
打开手机，收到你的短信。
“想了很久决定给你发这条信息，生日快乐。最近上海又降温，多穿点，你本来就容易生病，嗯，少吃点冰淇淋。哎，你一定要好好照顾自己啊。也不知道有没有被拉黑。还是希望你好好的，如果有需要，我一直在。”
叹气，关上手机。
你一定要好好照顾自己啊。
真是再也不想听到这种话了。
但这样的结局其实是完全可以预见的。
其实这不是伪装和面具。
因为，我们太了解彼此了，两个人在一起，如果太熟太熟，就反而不好玩了。
叔本华说：悲观是一种远见。
怎么形容呢，
我们两个啊，好的时候太好，不好的时候又非常的糟糕，完全不懂得控制和拿捏。
常常会觉得，我们一定会一辈子在一起。
也常常会觉得，或许明天就分开了。
我曾经问Y，我说，你这么大了，准备什么时候结婚啊？
他说，或许不会结婚，也或许明天就结。
知道到这一点，我十分伤心。
我记得有一次新闻中心开会，本来以为顶多一个小时，结果那次会议莫名其妙搞得十分隆重，请来了什么新闻界的重要领导之类的，足足开了两个小时，L一直在一教二楼说看书写作业，说等我会议结束。
十点四十，我走出会议室，手机已经没电了，我心里觉得，L大概回去了，但还是走去了一教。
果然空无一人。
然后我走了回宿舍。
那天晚上回去，我没有马上给手机充电，甚至不想马上联系任何人。
因为突然就觉得，也对，真的，这样是对的。
我不能期待别人超时等我。
甚至对抱有那种期待的自己感到羞耻和残忍。
后来，我不再要求L为我做任何事，因为我不想让他失落和难受。
欲求不满的人其实最可悲。
我说，如果你心甘情愿就做，如果有一丝不想，就别做。我不会要求你什么，对你要求的越多，你会受伤，我也会难过。
L说，你这样说，已经让我很难过了。
其实，我相信，他知道我的意思。
很多人都这样。
不喜欢麻烦别人的人其实也不喜欢被别人麻烦。
我提出一种于他的放养式的爱情模式，就意味着，我也不想被期待和被要求。
我于你实施不想让你失落难过的同时也是另一种意义上的自我保护机制。
L很聪明，听懂了我的话，所以我们后来会渐行渐远，如今再无相见。
但这其实是可以巧妙避免并且视而不见的，怪只怪，我们不仅过份地彼此了解，还年纪轻轻地，就怀揣着满腔的敏感和自尊。
谁没谁不能好好过。
记得一次谈话，那次谈话算是最后一次两人打开心扉的对谈，之后，再也没有深聊过。
但我已经很知足，因为我知道有很多情侣，其实是从来就没有深聊过。
有些人分手后才发现，自己根本不了解那个人。
“你知道吗，我那么喜欢你，是因为你了解我，很了解我，我也了解你。”L低头道。
“我知道，我们是同一种人，但过份地知根知底，内心被过份地探索，这样是不好的事情。”
“不，我需要懂我的人。”
“客观来说，大概朋友关系会更加适合我们一些。大多数男人最后还是娶了不是那么那么懂自己的女人。”
“为什么？”
“因为有时候生活会需要一些矫饰和伪善来粉饰自我的羞赧之心，没有自尊和假象，会活不下去。就像魏尔伦最后没有选择兰波的soul一样，而且他也坦白，他那位年轻貌美多金的妻子完全不懂他在想什么。”
“但你其实可以不拆穿我的，我们也可以活的很快乐，那对我来说很重要。”
“可我就是这样一个人，你也是，我们常常不留情面的互相嘲讽，这虽然是一场零和博弈，但也至少说明我们势均力敌。”
“你就不能为我改变一点？”
“你不能这样要求我。”
“可我为你变了好多。也为你做了许多的事。”
“谢谢你。但你的感情和我的感情，那是两份感情。这不是做生意，也不是等价代换，那是你心甘情愿的，如果不是心甘情愿，那么，你可能，误解了爱情。”
“我知道了。”
其实，在爱情里，越清醒的人便越不容易。
人们对于你情我愿这个词，也总是很久以后才会稍稍明白。
年轻的时候居然以为谈恋爱和种庄稼是一样的：一分耕耘一分收获。
长大以后才明白，连种庄稼都不能保证一分耕耘一分收获。
我仍旧记得那也是一个冬天，依然的冷，依然的没有雪，我们走在路上，说完最后一声再见，就再也没见了。
其实在这个偌大的世界里能遇到能和你频率相同的人是很难的，但是，你知道，离别却很容易。
后来我换了新手机，里面一片空白，没有短信和通话记录。
我觉得这样也很好，我不必每日都无意看到那些不必在看的于你相关的痕迹。我也不再用QQ拼音，它知道的太多了。我开始用搜狗输入法。
但我却舍不得把旧手机丢弃。
因为里面有我和你的那些年的讯息，语音，调皮的表情的搞怪的合照。
是的，大概是几百页，拉也拉不完的属于我们青春时代的深刻记忆。
如果有一天，我是说万一。
我们谁生老病死，再无相见，命运无情……
那我就拿出旧手机，把你的语音重头听起，和你，再重头爱起。
“你醒了吗？在干嘛呢？”是第一句。
但我知道，你会过得很好，老天会善待你。爱情也没有我们想的那么文艺，该来来，该散散。
一、Change the way we think
Seeing the discrimination that happened and is happening, I would— and I’m sure you did too— wonder about how it started.
To answer that question, let’s first think back to your childhood. When your teacher made you work with a person of another gender in a project or just sit together, you would probably not like that. You might even sit as far away from him/her as you could. Why is that? It’s because we recognize that person- whether it’s a different gender or race-as different. Yet our only unconvincing reason is “that person is different”.
Now imagine you as an adult, seeing a person of another race, despite you won’t really say anything about it because in the adult world things can be more serious than when you were a child, but you might still have some level of dislike.
From these two examples, we can identify two kinds of discrimination: the blunt kind and the subtle kind. Yet in both examples, their reactions were based on no science and evidence. The only thing that you see straight away is simply difference.
Now imagine you see a person of your own gender and race who doesn't look hostile. When you get to know him, however, you realize his mistakes and that he is not necessarily a good person.
Why do we accept in differences in people who look like us? These prejudices are merely based on our stereotypes of these things.
In the book Sapiens by Yuuval Noah Harrari, he introduced an extremely important concept: the vicious cycle of discrimination.
It starts off as a historical event: let's say slavery. Slavery began because European people saw African people as a primitive species, only because their society wasn't very advanced. When Europeans brought Africans to Europe to use as slaves, the Europeans created discriminatory laws which led to poverty amongst colored people (including lack of good living environment and good education) because the discriminatory laws caused Africans to live in poverty, Africans had less opportunity to earn education or social advancement. This, in turn affected Europeans’ perception of African people generally. Europeans simply saw uneducated people (cultural prejudices) and their status in society dropped to rock bottom.
Therefore, Harrari says the things that colored people are discriminated against now simply originated because of superficial observations without scientific evidence to back them up. It’s basically a myth.
A very wide spread myth was that people of color pollutes the purity of the whites. Nazism is partly based on an idea close to this: The Superman theory. A theory that the ‘weak’ people should be eliminated by society so that they don't pollute the purity of the ‘strong’. Yet there was no evidence that Jewish people or people of color were ‘weak’ or the so called ‘strong’ are the real strong people. To judge if a person is strong or weak shouldn't be based on the things that they are born with but it should be about their actual abilities. It’s like saying that white people are all good and pure. Then how to explain the fact that there are white people in jail?
It is not that people of color are not smart or women are not powerful, it is that stereotypes that people have for hundreds of years’ shapes thoughts and actions towards these minorities, as well as shapes the reality that we all live in.
The media plays a tremendous role in perpetuating stereotypes. Perhaps it was an article that you only glanced at, maybe it’s a YouTube video making fun of some stereotypes about people. While they may seem harmless, they have impact. Also, fake news on social media can also mislead people and start new myths: perpetuating the vicious cycle probably without even knowing it.
To solve this problem, we can start from the media first. Eliminate the amount of new myths…
But.
You might say that this is too idealistic. Indeed, it is; discrimination is a social problem and for it to be solved, we will need to control people’s minds at every second of their lives. This will probably not be possible until hundreds or perhaps even thousands of years later and we are not even sure that humans will still exist by then! The government will probably not even use this extreme approach if they invented it.
Yet there are things that we can change as individuals. Karl Marx once said that the main difference between ancient people and us is the way we think. Amongst rulers, the arrogant idea that they conquered the entire world may be an apocryphal fact, but once people started to discover new lands, the ruler and their people admitted that there were more places on earth than the Bible said. For example, before Christopher Columbus discovered America, they never thought about other lands on earth except themselves. So they set out on missions and discovered new continents and new resources.
We need to question these unreasonable things and not simply blindly belief, we need to admit our wrongs and ignorance for us to find more. Modern science is another good example, the more they discovered, they started to realize how less they actually know which led them towards new discoveries. Before Galileo thought of the idea that the earth was sphere, people thought that you will fall off of the edge of the earth if you sailed too far in one direction.
We have to confront the fact of our ignorance sometime and question more and more about the actual truth.
I first realized this problem when I realized a very big separation between Korean and Chinese people in my old school. It seemed like we were in two worlds just because of the language we speak and the things we talk about which seemed weird to me because it seemed normal to most people. I suppose it was also because of our parents who felt this way. Talking to Chinese people seemed normal, when speaking English was like a wall that they could not go beyond, I’m sure it was the same for the Korean parents too. Then, I thought that it’s just because of people who don't want to overcome the differences that we stayed the way we were, if there was nobody to address the problem, they would always see this as normal. So I joined a club that also addresses problems like this inside of school, started to write articles and posting them online. My posts didn't have many views but even a mere 30 or slightly more people saw my posts, then at least I did something. Every time there might be a different 30 people, which means the more I write, I would then change 30 more people. 30, 60, 90, 120……
See how much the power of simply one person can make a difference? If we just saw the anomalies as normal, then the problem will never be seen and therefore never be solved. You might think that other people will do it, because they wanted to. Yet if you are ignoring a crime that’s happening, doesn't that also make you guilty? How are people more obligated to do good? Doing good is in each and every one of us, it’s not like they are the only ones who knows what’s right or wrong.
If more people think this way, then the more people will realize this problem and discrimination (and other problems) might be solved one day. Some might still stick to their own ignorant little tiny bubble of knowledge, but it’s their loss for not discovering the treasures of the world. The ones strong enough and intelligent enough don't need to belittle others’ good to try to prove themselves good.
So don't always believe the surface of things, we must not let our wrong thoughts shape our actions and most importantly-
Our realities.
Jake Ren
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